The Joy of Being Alone: How to Lean into Solitude and Thrive

Leaning into solitude and doing less is a personal journey that requires consciously embracing being alone and finding ways to enjoy it. It means to actively seek out moments of being just by yourself. Being alone should not be feared or avoided, as it allows you to self-reflect and understand your own thoughts and feelings. 

Significance of sitting by yourself

Sitting with yourself and processing your thoughts and emotions can help you understand yourself, determine your goals and aspirations, and realize what has been the source of concern or stress and what your heart truly desires. Taking time to sit alone with your thoughts and emotions can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-discovery.

Doing less can be more rewarding

Doing less does not mean you are running away from your responsibilities or not being productive. It means you are slowing down, creating space for rest and relaxation, and prioritizing yourself. Doing less can be more rewarding because it allows you to focus on the things that truly matter, do them better, and create a greater sense of balance and well-being in your life.

Value of solitude in a hectic life

The strain of dealing with work and life, the noise, and the presence of other people around you can be the source of stress, anxiety, or just be emotionally draining. Solitude is the pocket of peace amidst hectic routines and chaotic life, as it can help you unwind and recharge. 

"Solitude is not the absence of company, but the moment when our soul is free to speak to us and help us decide what to do with our life." - Paulo Coelho

Learn to appreciate solitude

Embracing solitude can be daunting, so start small and be gentle with yourself as you learn to be at ease and enjoy solitude. The main advantages of solitude are that you can do things for yourself that you couldn't before, such as reading a book, pursuing any hobby, learning a skill or craft, going for a walk, enjoying a cup of coffee, or simply sitting alone; free from all distractions. Learn to accept and appreciate the joy and calmness that solitude brings about.

Tips on how to lean into solitude

Here are some tips on how to lean into solitude and do less:

Create intentional moments of solitude

Set aside time and space for solitude by scheduling some time each day to be with yourself without any distractions. You can enjoy that time by sitting in your favorite chair, going for a walk to a park or beach, or meditating.

Disconnect from technology

Turn off your phone, laptop, and any other devices that might distract you. This will help you fully disconnect from the outside world and focus on your inner thoughts and feelings.

Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness means being present in the moment and being aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations without judgment. You can practice mindfulness through meditation, deep breathing, or simply focusing on your surroundings.

"Solitude is the soul's holiday, an opportunity to stop doing for others and to surprise and delight ourselves instead." - Katrina Kenison

Engage in creative activities

Engage your creative side by writing, drawing, painting, or any other form of artistic expression. Don't worry about being perfect or creating something amazing your goal should be to enjoy the process.

Embrace the silence

Silence can be uncomfortable for some people because it can be quiet and introspective. Instead of resisting or dreading it, embrace it and relish peace and tranquility. Let your mind wander and see where it takes you.